An open letter about sex, consent and self-esteem to a young Gunnar

Dear Gunnar,

You're only 14 years old, and I know how it feels to have so much longing to be seen, loved and desired. I know, because I was you once. And even though I'm about to turn 50, those needs are still there. They may never go away.

That's the bad news.

But here's the good news: It somehow gets better.

When I was you, 36 years ago, I didn't know that girls could want me. It would take almost 20 more years before I realized it.

In six years, you'll have your first girlfriend. You'll touch your first boob. You'll have your first kiss. You sleep with a girl. Not exactly an early debut, but there are people who debut later too. And almost all the cool people at Sirdal High School who you think have sex all the time are largely still virgins too.

Shocking, isn't it? You're not as alone as you think.

But here's the thing: I know you're horny as hell…